Differences,
disparities do exists. These are inevitable substances of life. Some
times these may bring people together, some times these might drift
them apart. It remains, ultimately relative.
The
survival of any relationships, friendship in particular, rests upon the
manner as to how differences are compromised and worked out. But more
than this, what really assumes vital, dominant position are the likely
similarities. These are the substances that connects one from the
other. Albeit, almost always the point of convergence, it is not
however at all times domineering.
Issues of
differences will come one at a time as time passes by. What seemed to
be not problematic at first suddenly becomes an enigma, disturbing all
concerned, brought largely by individual experiences outside the
borders that defines the group. It becomes more problematic when
by-passed, undiscerned and deliberately not discussed.
On the
other hand, when projected towards the most likely scenario that will
happen, it creates a confusion on whether such relevant, divisive
issues should be discussed. If and when the end will neither be good
nor desirable, what is the point of putting the issues above each
other? Could it be that it is better, as argued once, that there are
things better left unsaid especially if it is to create a larger havoc,
if it is to destroy the relationship rather than fix the issues, and if
it is to leave the people hurt?
Whatever it
is that will happen, though, it is important that issues are made
clear, and compromise are tried to be reached upon, rather than totally
being passive and indifferent. Whether or not the relationship will
continue, what is important is that there comes a point, a juncture by
which all concerned are given the opportunity to voice out what is
deemed to be said, and to let other feel the overpowering emotion of
the moment.
It is true
that people will come and go into every one's life. There might be
times when one feels accountable to the other, and vice-versa, but that
is because there is a bond that connects them. That bond, is however,
weak. It is weak because every one does not hold any one else's life,
except his/her own. There will come a time that it has to be torn
asunder.
Life is
fluid. Life is not-constant. The world changes, every one changes.
However deep the connection is, however strong the bond has became,
when it is time to let go, one has no other choice but to let go.
Letting go
is not an act of weakness if it points to the failure to exhaust all
opportunities and means to bring things back to how it used to be, and
put the pieces back together. It never will be. Letting go, in fact, is
a sign of strength. It is strength because one learns how to set others
free even if it will hurt, even if it will break that one apart.
The only
reason why people tends to hold on is that they are afraid to lose
other people, because they think they need them. Once in their lives
they have became too much dependent on other people that such
convention have risen up. But in fact, they can live without them.
People can survive, and go on with their lives without clinging to a
past, that hurt so bad.
It is a matter of strength. It is a matter of will. It is relative.
Currently listening to: harder to breathe
Currently reading: Direct Democracy, Competitive Elitism
Currently feeling: mellow